“I found the woman of my life” he told me, while I was trying to figure out what was brighter, the sparkling look of happiness in his eyes or his smile?
That was what a friend confided in me after I asked him “what is new with you?”. I have not seen this friend for almost a year, and to be more specific the last time I saw him, he was flirting with several women in a single weekend. I am trying to figure out what shocked me the most, the fact that one of the most successful womanisers I have ever met was saying that, or that it was one of the boldest statements I have never heard before from a man?
I was very happy for my friend, even though a few months ago I got out of a four-year relationship with a woman, who was an amazing human being, a beautiful and kind soul and whom I trusted more than almost anyone in my life (yes you guessed it correctly a “but” is coming), but I knew that we were not “the one” for each other and I was truly doubting that such a thing as “the one” exists.
I was admiring my friend’s relationship over Instagram (since we were living in different continents) for many months and then one day, out of the blue, they stopped posting pictures together and moved to different cities.
You can imagine how upset I was, one of my last hopes/examples of “finding the woman of my life (dreams) was lost”. A couple of months went by and I remember reading an article from her, describing what changed in her life and how hard the last couple of months had been. What stayed vividly in my memory, is that at some point in the article she had the following message “ This has nothing to do with my last relationship, that person was a true angel and the light in my life”.
That pushed me to get into a spiral of thoughts. How is it possible to be with the “person of your life” and then break up.
What I learned from that story was that when you find “the one”, it does not mean that things will become smooth or easy, on the contrary, it will be more challenging than any other relationship, in order to help you grow (on a soul level).
In addition, even if you find “the one” in your life, it does not mean that you will end up together. Furthermore, no matter if you are in a relationship with the person you consider to be “the one” or not, if you want that relationship to work you need to work for it and have it as a priority before anything else.
Communication is EVERYTHING…!